Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | TED

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What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it's fame and money, you're not alone - but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you're mistaken. As the director of 75-year-old study on adult development, Waldinger has unprecedented access to data on true happiness and satisfaction. In this talk, he shares three important lessons learned from the study as well as some practical, old-as-the-hills wisdom on how to build a fulfilling, long life.

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  • Goutham kumar G

    Goutham kumar G

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    I wil be rich famous and be great at relationships(wink )

  • FBI


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    I hate feeling lonely but I love being alone
    Huge difference

  • Britain Covey

    Britain Covey

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    “Life isn’t about accumulation. It’s about contribution.” -Stephen R Covey

  • G Life

    G Life

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    KEY: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. The good life is built with good relationships.

  • Agrina


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    Nice speech, i literaly crying

  • dina brown

    dina brown

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    So, the most important tips are:
    📍the social connection (loneliness really kills. but it’s not the number of friends and the existence of marriage or just relationships. It’s about the quality!!! good relationship is protection for ours brains! 🧠 🧠 )

  • Joao Nunes

    Joao Nunes

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    Hey, if Im gonna be miserable anyways thank god Im getting a shorter lifespan! :D

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  • Steven Lopes

    Steven Lopes

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    How do we know that forcing ourselves to build better relationships helps us to avoid memory loss and avoid being unhappy, can it be the opposite ? i wonder if certain biological factors which incline people to develop dementia (and therefore memory loss and mood swings and depression etc ..) would prevent them from being able to build good social relations. Which is the cause and which is the effect ?

  • Ram Graphic designer

    Ram Graphic designer

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    One of the main reason why people are happy is quality of air.

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    The Office times 9999 xD

  • Camila Haux

    Camila Haux

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    I wonder what the result would have been like if this study had been done among women.

  • rizza mae ong

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    i love this TED Talk.
    i keep rewatching 5x a year.

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    Men, white men

  • reem sohib

    reem sohib

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    I never been good with people. I reach out but they are never interessted. I always feel lonely

  • Jagbeer Singh

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    All I deeply want is to be kind to each other while interacting,it's not about you, it's about us :)

  • Cer3alex _

    Cer3alex _

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    Idk I just feel like the more I know the happier I am, obviously relationships are essential but I feel I've got that settled

  • LuisFer306


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    The more you try to understand life... the more you get frustrated...

  • Namra نمرہ ھاشمی

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    Anas ibn Malik reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever is pleased to have his provision expanded and his life span extended, let him keep good relations with his family.”
    Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 2067, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2557

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    I will get a 4.8 GPA
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    Om shanti



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    Record videos of your family members record there voices and their physical presence you can thank me later in your blessings

  • Bashir Issack

    Bashir Issack

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    Man can have all the material and relationships in this world but if he dosent have God in his life it's as if he has nothing in this life💚💛❤

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    Answer why we have “Covid pandemic”

  • Kat R

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    10:10 summary of the video

  • Pilar Serrano

    Pilar Serrano

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    I cannot understand and I do not agree with science that has been generated without women. A study that only includes men, really? Do you think it's good science?

  • Selvi Selvi

    Selvi Selvi

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    Good amazing study...

  • Revenant Wolzart

    Revenant Wolzart

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    Amazing commitment for a great cause

  • Jobs Steve

    Jobs Steve

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    So sad i am lonely, i don't even have a real friend.

  • riesl


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    This guy makes me smile just by talking

  • How To do it

    How To do it

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    For me spirituality is number one, what gives me hope, happiness and reason to live when depressed is the belief in god.

  • Black Knight

    Black Knight

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    And what if i won't met someone for me? Is like a kid try to reach something imposible

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  • Brittany Shaw

    Brittany Shaw

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    I don’t like that the study was all men. What about what makes women happy? 😥

  • E


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    I want to be rich 🤑 financial wealth is very important to me it’ll grant me my freedom quite literally since I am a woman living in some oppressive society in the Middle East and I will enjoy the journey to achieving that amen 🙏🏻 💪🏻

  • K Forest

    K Forest

    Pred 9 dňami

    Never once thought happiness was fame and money I came from real people. Own worst enemy is the self when it follows too much no independent state of mind.

  • Dante Paperinosky

    Dante Paperinosky

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    A lot of health, a lot of money and stop....

  • Ludi-Chris309


    Pred 10 dňami

    Good relationships are the key to happiness?
    Guess I'm screwed then 🙃

  • Pia Love

    Pia Love

    Pred 10 dňami

    You are responsible for making yourself happy! Dont forget that😀

  • Mary M

    Mary M

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    My life goal is happiness, peace, serenity, and finding your life's purpose

  • Madina G.

    Madina G.

    Pred 10 dňami

    "Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery, but now is a gift , That's why it is
    called present "
    -Master Oogway

  • QueenKobraXX


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    Well first not trying to be judgemental but it took 75 years to find this out? I could have told you that in less than my 45 years by looking at how once people retire or lose a long term spouse or put in a home have quickly declining health and die earlier! And no I do not have even a 2 year college degree!
    They pay people to do this???
    I should be so much better off than I am!
    You can't lean into relationships when you're alone because you don't fit into the social construct of America. When you aren't "normal". It's almost impossible to make friends, close friends, when you're a grown adult.

  • Secularanarchist


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    A good life is built with relationships, however there are other studies that show that people, who remain single all their lives, are among the happiest. They also live the longest. There are two cohorts, those who are in a happy life-long relationship and those who remain unattached. Both are shown to have the most satisfied and long lives. Divorcees, especially those who get remarried, tend to fare more poorly.

  • Gwyn English Nielsen

    Gwyn English Nielsen

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    Happiness has little to do with the material world. If you are looking for true happiness, connect with the writings of the Dalai Lama and then you will discover it. The relationship you have with yourself is more important than the relationships you have with others. Loneliness is a state of mind. If you are a spiritual person, you already know that you are never alone. You don't experience loneliness. I agree that sharing with others is important and doing for others is also imperative, but positive relationships alone will not make you happy if you are not happy with yourself.

  • urmanascrewed


    Pred 11 dňami

    It seems so hard to make friends and harder to maintain the friendship

  • orbitring


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    Happiness comes from within . . . not from without !

  • DJ Huang

    DJ Huang

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    But isn't people relationship also creates all sorts of problems? I would say a good relationship to self, to nature can be a good replacement for the one with all others.

  • Bandstand91


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    It is totally true in these days. people no matter how they look? we are the same, we need to love and be loved. I love the order of this speech: family - Friends and community. Quality is the priority. we do not to have too much people in your life but you have to have the best in your mind

  • Karthik KD

    Karthik KD

    Pred 12 dňami

    Let's hope people will give more importance to relationships and other peoples after understanding this ....😊
    Edit : To the good ones Im saying😁

  • Christopher Higgins

    Christopher Higgins

    Pred 12 dňami

    Surround yourself with people that will visit you on your deathbed, not the ones that will come to your wedding.

  • khalikea


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    The real question is who decides what makes a good life? What is the purpose of life? Is it to be happy? Is a happy life a good life? It only makes sense that we ask these questions to The Creator of life.

  • noor


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    He's absolutely wrong,

  • Gurleen Kaur

    Gurleen Kaur

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    This is a complete masterpiece

  • Dot Chen

    Dot Chen

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    I love this talk and I love the study. I share it with friends all the time. Real relationships are extremely assuring, powerful and restoring. Thanks for this!

  • Hannah Nunnally

    Hannah Nunnally

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    "Replacing screen time with people time"

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    impressive it

  • V Mtz

    V Mtz

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    Wow! This is a “discovery”? Not to be a chauvinist, but I was brought up abroad and I’ve known this since I was a child.

  • John D

    John D

    Pred 13 dňami

    What I felt was important at age 20 was not important at age 40. What was important at age 40 was not important at age 60. The one lasting thing that was important all thru those years were the relations I made and the few friends I have made. Some people i have not talked to in several years. but when we do its like no time has passed. Relationships and Health matter the most

  • 주방의 향기 LalaSunny

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    Stop using SNS makes me happy.

  • Dario Di Donato

    Dario Di Donato

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    Thank you so much!

  • Girish Aryal

    Girish Aryal

    Pred 13 dňami

    Will or Desire is the source of suffering as per Eastern Philosophy.

  • Ryan Nicolas

    Ryan Nicolas

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    Were they happy during doing of the long research about happiness?

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    යාලුවනේ ICT ඉගෙන ගන්න කැමති ඔයාල හමෝටම මේ Channel එක ගොඩක් ප්‍රයෝජනවත් වෙයි. ICT විශයට අදාල ගොඩක් කරුණු මේ එකේ තියෙනවා....

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  • Anuska Sahukar

    Anuska Sahukar

    Pred 14 dňami

    I always wanted to know what made a good life, and this is the day I knew.
    Thank you so much for making me realize there is nothing greater than love, compassion and knowledge.

  • Sagara Suranga

    Sagara Suranga

    Pred 14 dňami

    For those who are introvert don’t like to socialise don’t worry keep building healthy relationships with yourself. That’s the most important thing.

  • Sagara Suranga

    Sagara Suranga

    Pred 14 dňami

    I don't think others can tell what makes you happy. You have to ask yourself what makes you happy and content because we are different.

    • Jobs Steve

      Jobs Steve

      Pred 6 dňami

      Can't agree more



    Pred 14 dňami

    Essa palestra deu-me esperanças.

  • Alejandro Caballero Salas

    Alejandro Caballero Salas

    Pred 14 dňami

    which one was President?

  • EvaSara Luna

    EvaSara Luna

    Pred 14 dňami

    Why just men?

  • craigzilla100


    Pred 14 dňami

    I've allowed so many friends to be pushed away and it is absolutely a negative impact to my happiness.

  • Shubhaksh Kumar

    Shubhaksh Kumar

    Pred 15 dňami

    Now I know, why I will die early....

  • 황원


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    Through the huge scale of study, I learned that the ultimate goal of life is to create good and healthy relationship. The lesson that good relationships protect not only our body but also protect our brain was very impressing. Taking enough time with my friends and family will help me grow healthier both physically and mentally. Good relationship is the true asset for my future.



    Pred 15 dňami

    live the life

  • MBW W

    MBW W

    Pred 15 dňami

    Agree that chasing money, fame and status at the office are sad endeavors. But I think life satisfaction requires more than just “good relationships” - I feel best about myself when I’m doing the work and activities that I love, especially when they make a positive contribution to others.

  • MBW W

    MBW W

    Pred 15 dňami

    724 MEN. Hello!

  • Keturah Spencer

    Keturah Spencer

    Pred 15 dňami

    Yup, I'm dying young. 😢 Leaning into relationships looks like grief in the end.

  • Greg Moore

    Greg Moore

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    Crispy buds and gnarly waves....

  • Evan Campbell

    Evan Campbell

    Pred 15 dňami

    What a beautiful and profound presentation. Thank you to Professor Waldinger, and thank you to TED for recording and sharing this with us 😌

  • Aditya Pawar

    Aditya Pawar

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    The way he explains is very beautiful I wish he just keep talking 👍☺️

  • Aditya Pawar

    Aditya Pawar

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  • johnson張澤宇


    Pred 16 dňami

    The most wonderful speech of all TED.

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    I'm here watching this mandatory video .... Army life 🤙

  • Connie Rahakundini

    Connie Rahakundini

    Pred 16 dňami

    Well prophet Muhammad ever said : ""Whoever likes to expand his sustenance and lengthen his life, let him continue the ties of kinship."

  • Sad Boay

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  • Seoulite


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    Great speech!

  • Summer In Flow

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  • Thảo Tea

    Thảo Tea

    Pred 17 dňami

    good life is built up with good relationships...

  • Joshua Alexander

    Joshua Alexander

    Pred 17 dňami

    Having a good relationship with God will make you extremely happy ranther than any other relationship.

    • Dragos NC

      Dragos NC

      Pred 16 dňami

      exactly, more than that people in these days are selfish and with own interests in others and not real love or friendship

  • iniuram


    Pred 17 dňami

    open mind, live for the present and see the good and bad as one. if there's balance you will be happy, care-free and child-like. that's one of the things that i learned from the unifying truth project.

  • Frost


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    Programa de conversação colaborativa da Kordsa. 🇧🇷

  • Steve Walker

    Steve Walker

    Pred 18 dňami

    "He who desires ample provisions and his life be prolonged, should maintain good ties with his blood relations"
    Prophet Mohamed (peace be upon him).

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    Pred 18 dňami

    Thanks! and thanks for having that smile throughout the talk.

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